The process of Failure
Last week, I was looking at a grade I received for a group project in my Business class. The part that bothered me was that it was my fault we had a bad grade, and I hadn’t looked at the directions we were given carefully like I should have. The only thing I could do at this point was to apologize to my group and tell them about my mistake as a group leader… yet I still felt as though it didn’t make things any better. Not just my grade suffered, but all of our grades did. I always imagined how my actions and mistakes tend to change people’s perspective of you for the worst, without you even trying to do so.
It also caused me to reflect on other times in the past when I could have done better on many different things. I could have tried to overcome nervous habits I had (and still have) about asking people questions when I needed help with something. I could have overcome my sense of awkwardness to get to know people in my life I could have been friends with. I could have written that proposal for one of my clients, so the Web Design I’m doing for him would have gotten done sooner. I could have not let my life in the general scheme of things get the better of me during tough times with family and friends. I could have avoided letting other people’s opinions about me affect me in negative ways. I could have continued on a healthier diet in order to keep myself in better shape than I am now.
The list goes on, and it keeps adding up to more things I’m doing wrong.
It’s hard to think about failure in a positive way, because when it happens, you can always expect something negative to occur. Maybe you get into a fight with a friend, or receive a scolding from your boss or business client. The results always end up being negative.
Earlier this school term, I remember my business instructor said something about failure that really stuck to me:
“If failure could kill you, we would all be dead long before we even thought about taking this business course.”
Which I do believe he’s right! The reason why people may consider failure to be a bad thing is because all of us tend to believe the negative outcomes will transform us into the people we never want to be; and suddenly, we are now that person for the rest of our lives. The thing is, all of us fail at life sometimes… but does that make all of us bad people? No, because the errors we make is what proves the world can never be perfect. Nothing ever will be no matter what you do. So why try and make it that way? Why not just learn from your mistakes to make the world better than what it is here and now.
Learning from our mistakes is like the bandage that covers the accidental mark we inflicted on ourselves… and we continue to be reminded of them when the scar remains. It’s not a crime to try and end that pain and suffering. That’s what first Aid and bandages are for. That’s what we must do in order to learn from our mistakes. We have to slowly work on healing that horrible wound, so we can finally accept that there’s no such thing as perfect people, or a perfect world. No matter how old, young, ethnic, religious, sad, pissed off, pessimistic, or optimistic it may seem… no one’s any better than you are, and you aren’t any better than them.
So don’t consider your failures as a crime, no matter what the results may be. Embrace your imperfect self, and keep moving forward. As you continue to learn and regret less about what you have done in your life, it allows you that time to keep going and slowly grow a much greater, more fulfilled life.
It’s a long term cycle that will never end. This is all you will need to know in your life in order to overcome any difficult obstacle: