I find it amazing how some of my coworkers confide in me in ways that make it seem like they trust me full-heartily. I can’t help but ask myself, “Do I really seem like a trustworthy person to you? Do you think you know me well enough to tell me your deepest feelings?” Not saying that I don’t consider myself trustworthy. In fact, I think I am very good when it comes to respecting other peoples opinions and privacy for the most part. I just find it surprising when a stranger or acquaintance opens up to me in these ways.
Though when it comes to revealing my own sense of opinions to the world around me, I find it a constant challenge. I know with this challenge I face, it makes it harder for me to develop closer relationships with people. For once in a great while though, it kind of feels like a good thing. The title of the blog post should give you somewhat of an indicator why I feel this way.
I don’t really care for Office gossip, but it just so happened to occur recently. One of my female coworker’s asked me if I thought another coworker of mine was annoying. Well, I can’t say this person she is talking about is a drag to be around. He really likes to talk to people who are on the job. I see him talk to all kinds of people on the job, and he does tend to throw mild flirts to the ladies in the office. I’m thinking this may just be his idea of saying, “hey ladies! I’m available!” but I feel I honestly have no right to judge the way he acts. It doesn’t bother me, so long as he doesn’t act out on those feelings too drastically or in a physical manner. I told her I felt pretty neutral about him, because really, that’s how I feel. I can’t find it in my heart to give a decent opinion about somebody I haven’t known personally for at least a few years. He’s human just like the rest of us.
The thing that concerns me the most though, is that she freely told me her annoyed feelings for this coworker, when generally, I know it’s not always a good idea to blurt out these types of comments in the office. It’s not professional, especially when it’s important to work together with every team member you have, no matter how annoying. I know it can suck sometimes when you just don’t clique very well with someone, but it’s good to understand the values they do have that make that person an important asset to the work group as a whole. So yes, if he does need a hand with something on the job, it’s important to assist regardless of those pent up feelings.
It’s important to be careful about what you say in the office, because there are instances when you may not truly know how trustworthy someone can be with this kind of information. If those kinds of improper words get to the boss, it could cost you your jobs. Though if you ever do have a serious problem with an employee, it’s always safer to just confront your boss about the issue. Be as rational as possible about why that person is bugging you. In what way are they bugging you? Is it a threat to you or other people’s safety? Is it just discomforting you?
How do you handle Office gossip?